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Parenting is often framed as a battle between discipline and chaos, but Dr. Becky Kennedy argues that the real story lives beneath the behavior we see.
Kennedy traces how early relationships teach children which parts of themselves are welcome, which emotions feel dangerous, and how those lessons quietly script adult identity.
0:00 Rethinking how we learn, grow, and change
5:41 Two foundations of childhood
6:42 Behavior vs identity
10:11 How to deal with lying
12:29 Fear-based punishment and compliance
14:03 Managing emotions and early relationships
16:22 Gentle Parenting
21:54 Understanding our own “factory settings”
22:08 Attachment Theory
28:29 Internal Family Systems
39:14 Dysregulation, co-regulation
37:32 How to regulate your emotions at any age
1:12:42 Frustration tolerance
1:18:44 Rupture, repair, and Deeply Feeling Kids
1:28:28 Deeply Feeling Kids
1:36:28 4 habits that build emotional strength
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About Becky Kennedy:
Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist, mom of three, and founder of Good Inside. Her goal is to empower parents to feel sturdier and manage the challenges of parenting through mindfulness, emotion regulation, and internal family systems theory. She lives in New York City and can be found on Instagram @drbeckyatgoodinside.